Cousins!

Actress and comedian MoNique has officially entered the group chat discussion of woman wearing hair bonnets in public!

Over the weekend MoNique took to social media within an five+ minute IGTV video to discuss her own personal views of woman wearing head scarfs, slippers and pajamas in public places.

The funniest thing to me about this Monique/bonnet situation is that people are in the comments talking about how their parents always said they should look presentable but NOT SAYING WHO THEY WERE TRYING TO LOOK PRESENTABLE FOR. pic.twitter.com/tZsmtmDRJ6

— A☭ (@c0mmiemami) May 30, 2021

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“I’ve been seeing it not just at the airport. I’ve been seeing it at the store, at the mall… When did we lose our pride in representing ourselves? When did we slip away of let me make sure I’m presentable when I leave my home?”

She also noted that her comments weren’t made to make women feel less than but to encourage them to present themselves in a respectable manner.

“All I’m saying is could you please comb your hair?, I’m not saying you don’t have pride but the representation that you’re showing someone will have to ask you to know if you have it. It’s not to get a man … it is just your representation of you, my sweet babies.”

Despite her intentions, MoNique was met with mixed commentary and backlash from fans that pointed out the fact that Black women are always ordered to live up to falsified norms of society and need to be left alone.

Mo’Nique addressed the forwarded comments made by social media users within a second video on her Instagram account that she captioned, “UNAPOLOGETIC.”

She shared two instances where fellow women helped get herself together within her career, “There were two people in my life that, had I taken a different attitude, I could have felt like they was rubbing me wrong, but I’m glad I took the attitude of appreciation and gratitude because they tapped me, and that was Patti LaBelle and Margaret Avery,”

I don’t wear a bonnet to the airport or grocery store but I wish someone would tell me what to wear and they don’t pay my bills. But on the flip, Monique did what an Auntie would do—give you advice you didn’t ask for. 😜 pic.twitter.com/Zbyzncnsjd

— Minda Harts (@MindaHarts) May 30, 2021

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MoNique continued, “Patti had to tap me one night when we were getting ready to do a show and I was in my feelings over some s— and that woman had to come tap me and tell me to get myself together. And she didn’t tell me with lollipop kisses and pancakes with syrup all over it. She told me what I really needed to hear. And I was grateful for that-that night because it impacted my life.”

She says that she was thankful and grateful to both of those women.

“I’m glad those two women loved me enough that they would go out of their way to talk to me in a way that aunties, mamas, big sisters talk to their little sisters, nieces, grandbabies, daughters,” said Mo’Nique. “I was grateful for that because it allowed me to think about things differently. Never once did I think those women were trying to be offensive,” she added, referring to Patti and Margaret’s advice as “nothing but love.”

Me Omw to a random airport in my bonnet just because Mo’Nique said not to #monique #bonnet pic.twitter.com/zWtLc6z0Vl

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“So for you babies that have taken offsenie to what I said, I’m okay with that. I’m okay with ya’ll being in your feelings about it, ‘cause when you love somebody for real, I know y’all will get over that. And when y’all say, ‘we will cancel yo ass,’ well, they’ve tried that, and I’m still here.”

Mo’Nique wrapped things up by highlighting that she loves the Black community and that she’s coming from a place of love and light.